How do you know if he is into you?

I think that's very simple. Let's break down what a commitment is, and what goes into upholding one. A commitment is NOT a single decision that's made which enters you into a "committed state" until there is a break up. There is no commitment contract, which keeps you committed for a specific amount of time. A commitment is a recurring question that is asked at various times throughout said commitment. It is being asked the same question constantly. What makes the commitment is answering yes to that question every time. Yes I love my mate. Yes I want to be with my mate. Yes I want "us" to work. Yes I am going to give our relationship every opportunity to succeed. Yes I understand that there will be sacrifices and I think my mate is worth every one.

With that being said, think about your current or past relationships. Find an argument that you had with your mate and think about the series of decisions that led up to the fight. At some point they thought to themselves that THIS (whatever this may be) is more important than my commitment. At that point, they are no longer committed. Holding on to someone or something because you are in a committed relationship is you fooling yourself. Actions speak louder than words, and if your decisions say that you are not in a relationship, then guess what? Riiiiiight

So how can you tell whether or not someone is committed to you? Look at the decisions that they make. If you feel like their decisions are not that of a committed person, then you need to rethink your next commitment decision. It means one of two things, either they are not committed to you, or you have a difference in views as to what is acceptable decision making. But don't get hope if it's the second one, cause that is even worse than someone who just doesn't care. It is hard to see eye to eye on a lot of things, and it brings about a lot of "compromises." I put it in quotation marks, because one person deciding not to argue to keep the peace is not a compromise, its unconditional surrender. You may see that as a decision that's best for the relationship and I guarantee the other person sees it as an opportunity to get away with more than they did before.